He has become increasingly controlling, checking all my movements and whereabouts, even while we are both at home.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for over 20 years. Recently, he has become increasingly controlling, checking all my movements and whereabouts, even while we are both at home. He checks if I am asleep by pretending to be putting something on the bedside table when he could just ask if I am asleep, for instance.

In today's Dear Annie column, Annie Lane hears from a woman whose husband constantly checks on where she is, even if she's asleep.

DEAR ABBY: My husband puts everyone first before me. An example: We were invited to his aunt Diana’s 50th wedding anniversary. His father had been their best man but couldn’t make it due to illness. So, at the last minute, my husband was asked to sit at the head table with his aunt and her husband.

At his aunt's anniversary party, he makes no effort to have his wife join him at the head table, then doesn't understand why she's hurt and embarrassed.

So, at the last minute, my husband was asked to sit at the head table with his aunt and her husband. I was not invited to do that, and my husband didn’t ask if I could sit with them. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren,