A former co-worker from 25 years ago tells the letter writer, “You look different.” Dear Miss Manners: I’m a university professor and a woman in her early 30s. I was attending a talk and arrived late.

I managed a weak joke about my gray hair; however, I felt the comment was rude and insulting. Unfortunately, I was stuck in an elevator with this person and had to continue the aw

In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin suggests a polite yet firm reply when faced with an insensitive remark about one's appearance from someone you haven't seen in many years.