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DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 27 years. Most of them have been miserable. My husband has been a functioning alcoholic for more than 40 years. I consider his behavior emotionally abusive. I hate my home. My kids (22, 19 and 17) don’t want me to leave him.

A reader writes that she is a “shell of a woman” and that “she can’t do another year of this.” Dear Abby: I have been married for 27 years. Most of them have been miserable. My husband has been a functioning alcoholic for more than 40 years.

I have been married for 27 years. Most of them have been miserable. My husband has been a functioning alcoholic for more than 40 years. I consider his behavior emotionally abusive. I hate my home. My kids (22,