DEAR ANNIE: My husband, “Jake,” and I have been married for eight years. We have a 5-year-old son, “Caleb.” For the most part, we have a solid marriage, but there’s one issue that keeps coming up -- his mother, “Linda.”

Tired of the Third Parent Dear Tired: Just because your husband is used to his mother’s behavior doesn’t mean you have to accept it. The first step is having a conversation with Jake. Explain to him that his mother’s presence affects your sense of privacy and control in your own home,

When I said something, she laughed and told me to “lighten up.” I’ve told Jake how much this bothers me, but he avoids conflict. He says, “That’s just how she is,” and tells me to let it go. But I can’t keep letting it go;

She stops by unannounced at least twice a week, criticizes my parenting (“You should really be making his lunches from scratch”) and overstays her welcome. Last month, she gave Caleb ice cream right before bed,

We have a 5-year-old son, “Caleb.” For the most part, we have a solid marriage, but there’s one issue that keeps coming up — his mother, “Linda.” Linda has always been a little overbearing, but ever since Caleb was born,